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How supportive are your husbands of using natural fertility methods rather than going forward with an IVF treatment? I am fully commited to natural as I have read about such great results, but I don't think my husband is on board yet. Does anyone know of a way to get your husband to be more supportive. It's hard doing this by yourself.

One thing I have found is that you can't make people change and you really have to trust yourself and that what you are doing is the right thing. Once in a while I'll share with my husband some of the success stories that I get sent from Hethir or that I read on the website, or make him some extra smoothie to show him how good it tastes to be healthy , but for the most part I'm giving him time to come around on his own. Best wishes with him and stay strong!

I am blessed to have a very supportive husband! He always supports me and is usually the doing a lot of the research when it comes to issues that come up. In fact, a few months ago he read that eating GMO foods may cause infertility and vowed that we would never eat anything GMO again (we have always avoided it in the house but weren't usually real strict when eating out). Thankfully he is an adventurous eater so he will usually always down whatever I give him to eat or drink- even if it isn't too great tasting! The only thing he hesitates at is the money... on trying more supplements or superfoods, but usually lets me order if the research is convincing.
I hadn't really thought about it but I guess I shouldn't take his support for granted!

Yes, my husband is so supportive because to get pregnant with my daughter 4 years ago, I had to take Clomid. He realized what an impact it had on my body, mood, etc. and understands why I don't want to take it again. We are also in agreement that the depo shot I was on for years screwed up my body tremendously, so no more drugs is understood and completely accepted.

Its def a sensitive topic for us, but he's supportive enough I feel. We've been married for over 7 yrs and we're just getting around to telling our families that we're having trouble conceiving. Because we're both young, they kind of just thought that we were trying to hang on to our youth and enjoy our time toghether lol. Support is absolutely essential!

My husband is supportive as in he wants a baby so bad, he is only hesitant on the money aspect..especially in this economy. He wants a baby just as bad as I do, I just dont think he realizes how BAD I want to do a fertility cleanse to help my body and I have had a history with anorexia and bulimia and he thinks me wanting to eat organic and healthier is an excuse for me to start restricting again. Again, its about the money, he doesnt like me to buy things on the internet as he doesnt know if its safe and if it would be effective for me with my feritlity problems.

My DH is very supportive...thankfully. He's all for natural ways to improve our fertility. I ordered Pre-Seed, and the first time we used it, he called it our "fertilizer"! LOL. I'm always coming up with new ideas and he is totally on board.
My ex husband was awful when we were TTC. At the end of our marriage, he told me that "IVF is ridiculous" and demanded to know why I couldn't just be happy with him? Yikes! That was really the final straw.
So, I thank my lucky stars that DH is as wonderful as he is.

What a good question. I have enjoyed reading other women's experiences. My husband is supportive of me, but also mildly concerned with the extra cost of organic. The main issue, is that he desn't truly buy into it himself. When he goes out with coworkers or clients for lunch he eats badly, but at home he eats what I prepare/buy. I definitely don't complain, though, because he is an amazing, loving man and he wants a baby as badly as I do, so he supports my supplements and the maca I asked him to put in his cereal, etc. TTC can be difficult, so we really try to stay positive and supportive of each other.
~Lara

I think its a weird position for most husbands. Mine was not too sure of the whole IF thing in the beginning. He was just as scared as me and had no clue what to expect. but seeing the pain and trials I went through while TTC with Clomid, shots, IUI's, etc. he quickly realized that although those methods helped us conceive, he would MUCH rather me use natural methods to avoid all the pain and discomfort.

I think once your husband sees the benefits of the herbs and natural treatments he'll be more on board. Most men are the "I'll believe it when I see it" especially in regards to IF. Everyone keeps telling patients that they'll get PG if they do this or that, then when they don't people often lose hope and trust in the doctor. Once your husband sees your body is improving and the herbs are helping I bet he'll be more supportive of your natural route choice.

Good luck!